5 STAGES OF HEALING

STAGE 1: Awareness
This is basically acknowledging your need for healing - moving away from denial/avoidance/escape/excuses, etc. - and towards taking accountability for your life and what is inside of you.

STAGE 2: Acceptance & Commitment
Whatever your issue is (physical/mental/emotional) - it is yours. You may want to deny it, repress it, blame someone or something else for it, be resentful about it, etc. - but it will still be with you, limiting your life. Or you can accept that it is yours to heal and make the commitment to do what it takes. If you are truly aware and truly committed, you can heal your life.

STAGE 3: Linking Cause & Effect
This is about finding the core or source of an issue so it can actually be healed. Most therapies focus on relieving symptoms while the deeper cause is unaddressed; that is why the long term success is low and the issues come back. Real, permanent healing - particularly of your core pattern - requires identifying where they originally came from and the beliefs, emotions, and energetics that are involved. This is like finding the root of a weed, so it does not keep growing back.

STAGE 4: Release & Replace
Once the root is identified, it still needs to be pulled out. The trauma and/or dysfunctional core learning is not stored in your conscious adult brain; it is stored in your subconscious or child brain. These two are completely different energetic and physiological systems. All the analysis and understanding (adult brain work) in the world inherently cannot uproot core trauma or patterns. It is necessary to use methods that take you deeply into the old brain and allow you to connect to the imprinting there, so it can be released. You are then able to replace the old beliefs/patterns with new, functional ones, at a deep enough level that they become truly congruent experiences.

STAGE 5: Re-education & Integration
This is an essential part of healing. After releasing and replacing old beliefs, we have the openness and opportunity for something new and fulfilling, but not necessarily the specific skills. It is rare that our dysfunctional core learning was accompanied by functional life skill development. Now, these need to be learned and practiced. These new skills are both inner and outer. Inner skills are things such as helping to focus and calm the mind, being clear on what is felt and what is needed, and how to diffuse intense, triggering situations. Outer skills would be things such as communication, managing resources, and relationship skills.